When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?
I have always been the mature type, handling my responsibilities and getting my first job as a dog groomer at 13. Though asked I was not the type to go out partying and had no use for drinking. So when I became pregnant at 21 and held that precious baby boy several months after I turned 22 I knew this was it. Time to put any foolish notions I may have had left over and become the adult I was supposed to be. This little guy was dependent on my husband and I and we’ve never regretted it. On December 26th last year this oldest child of mine and his wife had twin boys. He is also a detective with a police force in Maryland. I am not allowed to share pictures of the babies for their safety because of his job. We are truly grateful and blessed.
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12 replies on “An adult now?”
The first time I felt like a grown up was when I turned 40. Even though I was married, had long left home and was living my own life, it wasn’t until I was 40 when I really felt that my life was my own and I no longer had to answer to anyone else (i.e my parents) for the decisions that I made. This is when I began to realize I knew some things that my parents didn’t and ideologically I started to clash more with my mother, who up until that point, saw me as a carbon copy of herself. I guess you can say this was the time I really took on my own identity.
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It’s so true though, even as adults parents still see us as children and they know where best for us. It’s really hard to for some parents to let go. I’m glad to hear you were able to stand up for yourself and not become your mother but yourself.
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I’ll bet time just flies by watching them grow up! I don’t have kids of my own but I was an elementary teacher for many years and those third graders I taught 20 years ago are all grown up now and so I marvel at that!
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Honestly it’s so hard to believe how fast time flies. Jesse, my oldest is 32 now. How it happened, I couldn’t tell you. I remember a few times when he’d have a tantrum I remember thinking I can’t wait until you’re 18 and can move out. I think all parents think along those lines and teachers probably think, I can’t wait til certain students finish the school year and I don’t have them next year. Unfortunately with my children I noticed their behavior was worse after returning to school after summer because of so many outside influences. I did homeschool a few at their request for a few years and they were happy.
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I can understand that. I’ve learned that every kid is different and truly needs different things at different times to be their best.
Society is rough on kids these days!
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Yes they really do. Adults think they have it stressful and it’s true but it’s really hard being a kid now a days too. You just have to hope you can give them the support they need when they need it.
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That sounds like a awesome job for your son! Wishing him and his family ( Your family as well!) Many blessings !! 💖
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Thank you for your beautiful well wishes! 💖
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Of course! 💜
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That is so awesome about your son! Congrats to him and his wife, and it sounds like you did a great job raising him. 🙂 I’m Shel by the way. Looking forward to enjoying more posts.
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We are proud of him, thank you!
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I was also a very mature teen, Deanne. My dad passed when I was 8 and there were 5 of us. Mom worked hard to support us all, but I started working at 13 and used my own money for clothes, and other things I wanted. I moved 300 miles away and began my first teaching job at the age of 21, so I think that is when I really felt like an adult.
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